Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition

Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition Summary

Boundaries is the book that's helped over 4 million people learn when to say yes and know how to say no in order to take control of their lives.

Does your life feel like it's out of control? Perhaps you feel like you have to say yes to everyone's requests. Maybe you find yourself readily taking responsibility for others' feelings and problems. Or perhaps you focus so much on being loving and unselfish that you've forgotten your own limits and limitations. Or maybe it's all of the above.

In the New York Times bestseller, Boundaries, Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend help you learn when to say yes and know how to say no in order to take control of your life and set healthy, biblical boundaries with your spouse, children, friends, parents, co-workers, and even yourself.

Now updated and expanded for the digital age, this book continues to help millions of people around the world answer these tough questions:
Can I set limits and still be a loving person?What are legitimate boundaries?How do I effectively manage my digital life so that it doesn't control me?What if someone is upset or hurt by my boundaries?How do I answer someone who wants my time, love, energy, or money?Why do I feel guilty or afraid when I consider setting boundaries?How do boundaries relate to mutual submission within marriage?Aren’t boundaries selfish?
You don't have to let your life spiral out of control. Discover how boundaries make life better today!

Plus, check out Boundaries family collection of books dedicated to key areas of life - dating, marriage, raising kids, parenting teens, and leadership. Workbooks and Spanish editions are also available.

Book Reviews


Amazing5 star

Life changing55


Shoves Christianity down your throat1 star

This book popped up in a Google search for self help books. I read a few reviews and thought it was a safe bet. I got a solid 49 pages in and couldn’t get over the constant reference to the Bible. If you’re Christian maybe this will work for you but I found it leaning too much towards the Bible. Wish I could get my money back honestly,15


I didn’t even know what boundaries were5 star

Before I read this book I had no clue what a boundary was.. this truly defined a boundary. It was great!55


Too much based in Christianity1 star

As someone who is not christian, it is difficult to read because every paragraph has some sort of excerpt from the Bible or some christian story. I just wanted to read how I can create better boundaries. Some christian stuff, ok I can work around that, but this was too much for me.15


Boundaries - Freedom & Confidence5 star

Cloud and Townsend teach practical tools that bring freedom personally and relationally. It has been one of the most impactful resources in my different relationships: parents, spouse, kids, and employees. To know what is me and my responsibility and what is not has brought new freedom and confidence in my life.55


Excessive religious content2 star

It’s hard to trust the book’s wisdom with all the religious references. I think the author would have done better to leave that stuff out.25

Sunshine 1425

Good message, but too much Bible for me4 star

The message is good. However, there’s too much Bible for me. I might have been mistaken when I chose to read it. Maybe, this book was written to make you feel better when you set boundaries from a Christian point of view. I thought it had a pure psychological basis, but Bible is all over the book. This is a book written by Christians and for Christians.45


Second Time Through!5 star

Second time reading through... Just as amazing! I first read this book 5 years ago, and I didn’t even realize how much it had positively affected my thinking. Looking back, I didn’t really take it to heart or put much attention into the book; even so, it changed my boundaries! Having read it now 5 years later, I’m realizing how different I am because of this book. You get out what you put in, having a softened, repentant heart is what will allow the changes and growth to happen. My one buggaboo, is how short the chapter Boundaries and God is. I realize the whole book is based around our boundaries and our relationship with the Lord, but I wish they had dug in a liiiittle bit more.55


Great Book5 star

Must Read!55

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