It's Not Supposed to Be This Way

It's Not Supposed to Be This Way Summary

New York Times bestselling author Lysa TerKeurst unveils her heart amid shattering circumstances and shows readers how to live assured when life doesn't turn out like they expected.

What do you do when God’s timing seems questionable, His lack of intervention hurtful, and His promises doubtful?

Life often looks so very different than we hoped or expected. Some events may simply catch us off guard for a moment, but others shatter us completely. We feel disappointed and disillusioned, and we quietly start to wonder about the reality of God’s goodness.

Lysa TerKeurst understands this deeply. But she's also discovered that our disappointments can be the divine appointments our souls need to radically encounter God. In It's Not Supposed to Be This Way, Lysa invites us into her own journey of faith and, with grit, vulnerability, and honest humor, helps us to:
Stop being pulled into the anxiety of disappointment by discovering how to better process unmet expectations and other painful situations.Train ourselves to recognize the three strategies of the enemy so we can stand strong and persevere through unsettling relationships and uncertain outcomes.Discover the secret of being steadfast and not panicking when God actually does give us more than we can handle.Shift our suspicion that God is cruel or unfair to the biblical assurance that God is protecting and preparing us.Know how to encourage a friend and help her navigate hard realities with real help from God's truth.

Book Reviews


Good Cry5 star

I cried from page one through the epilogue. What wonderful wisdom and insight this author gives and it was the perfect time in my life to choose to read this book. The lessons seemed to be coinciding with my real life. At the end of each chapter was a place for self reflection. She brought the reader into her thoughts and forced you to take a look at your life and ponder yourself for a moment. Instead of it being just a great story, it was a great way to pull the chapter closer to yourself and be a part of the lesson.55


inspiration5 star

after reading this book it reminded me that what i face painfully is a reason, God understands and cares, and he uses our dust(things that upset us) for making us stronger. thank you Lysa for writing this book it brought such encouragement to me .55



This book has God written all over it. I mean, it’s like He was sitting right there next to her when she wrote this. This met me exactly where I was and I thank God for it. But God also gave us a choice and I’m so glad that Ms. Lysa chose to release this to us.55


Amazing5 star

This book had me crying. She shares her pain and makes you feel like your right there with her in yours. This book has helped me heal from my divorce.55


Thankful5 star

This book really helped me during a time of disappointment that I had never experienced before. It was beautifully written in a way that made me feel like I was talking to a friend, while also giving me scriptures that I hold onto today. I would definitely recommend this book to anyone who wants to be encouraged through the Word. Thank you Lysa for allowing God to use you to help me!55

Carolina Correa

Amazing5 star

I picked up this book because the title fit my life in a few words. I didn’t always read so consistently but every time I read the book it picked up on the very thing I was walking out in my life atm. Lisa is very raw and candid and so much appreciated when it comes to dealing with deep disappointment you can’t seem to shake. Highly recommend this read.55


Nothing but tears5 star

This book is truly anointed and speaks of my broken heart!!!! This is such a blessing that she is so transparent in her feelings at the time and it’s amazing how it seems you can feel what she was going through. truly anointed so glad I heard about this book through the singer Fantasia Barino speaking on this being her favorite book this is why I bought it and I’m so happy I did it speaking to my heart and soul!!!! I can’t put it down!55


It’s not supposed to be like this5 star

Good book55


Hard to read2 star

Some of the messages are very good and helpful. A lot of the book was hard to read, though. The authors writing style made it difficult to relate to. I almost gave up reading it.25


It’s not supposed to be this way5 star

This book was awesome. This book was enlightening. This book would have you on edge of seat reading past book club. It would have you saying whoa or wow and really looking and trying to understand your own stuff.55

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