Scary Close

Scary Close Summary

A New York Times bestseller, Scary Close is Donald Miller at his best.

Scary Close is a book about 
the risk involved in choosing to impress fewer people and connect with more;the freedom that comes when we stop acting and start loving; andknocking down old walls to create a healthy mind, a strong family, and a satisfying career.
From the author of Blue Like Jazz comes a story about finding the keys to a healthy relationship and discovering they are also the keys to a healthy family, a healthy career, and a healthy mind. And it all feels like the best kind of conversation with a good friend: smart, funny, true, important.

After decades of failed relationships and painful drama, Donald Miller decided he’d had enough. Impressing people wasn’t helping him connect with anyone. He’d built a life of public isolation, yet he dreamed of meaningful relationships. So, at forty years old he made a scary decision: to be himself no matter what it cost.

Book Reviews


Will it ever get old?5 star

My wife and I read this book during our engagement and have since given it to several friends as wedding gifts. I decided it was time I read back through it to confirm it actually made a good gift, and I found it once again to be profoundly impactful. So often, once you know the punch lines of a book it loses its potency. But Don uses story to expertly take his readers on a journey, speaking tangible and intangible truths into relationships in such a way that I don’t expect this book to ever collect too much dust on our shelf.55


Amazing5 star

Great book....self help in a way that is showing how it’s done...not a step by step at but leading by example.55

nicholas r anthony

Transparent and tremendous literature5 star

Every relationship is teleological, especially the relationship you have with yourself. I’ve been a manipulator that has jumped around from relationship to relationship trying to fill a hole that can’t be filled by a humans touch and been driven by money thinking happiness will reside in it. Happiness is a journey, not an end goal and Don’s raw openness and intimate stories help strip off the heavy clothing that has been weighing me down for so many years and revealed a world within myself where there is so much hope and love. Thanks for being so good at relationships Mr. Miller! God bless!55


The scary close5 star

Great book it showed me brokenness. It showed me weakness it's showed me I was scared of been authentic it changed my life. For 16 years I was hidden behind my issues but this book let me see myself in a clearer image. Love use to scare me and commitment was a nightmare. Now I am a better person through the Grace and love of God. This book is everything people say it is and more.55


Like my biography5 star

I'm usually a "highlighter" when I read books and certain passages speak to me...I found myself nearly highlighting this entire book. Don's choosing of ways to bring his emotions and experiences to life resignated with my soul, and I'm a changed man because of this book. Thank you Don.55


Scary Close is Scary Awesome!5 star

I loved every page. Donald Miller knows how to speak the truth and make the truth pleasant to hear despite that the truth can be hard to swallow. I read this book and couldn’t put it down. Definitely changed the way I view myself and my fear of intamcy. I have read many of Donald Miller’s books and this is one of my favorites next to Blue Like Jazz and Searching For God Knows What.55


Taking off the mask5 star

This book is incredible. Miller writes with authenticity and transparency. He isn't afraid to write what his audience needs to hear. This book has changed my life and has taught me how to take off my titles and masks and build a foundation of intimacy that will forever impact the people closest to me.55


NO WORDS...5 star

As I finished up the last paragraph I set in aw of what I just read. There was so many different point in the book when it was like he had been reading my mail. So many issues and thoughts that I've delt with or in some cases didn't even realize I had been dealing with that issue. Such a great book!55

Jared Zajac

Scary Close5 star

This has been a book I've been wanting to read for 10 months now. The prompting me this morning was so great that I cleared my schedule to stay home and read it. This book couldn't have come to me at a more precise time. The Lord has had me on a recent journey teaching me to find my identity and how to love beautifully and recklessly... I wept through this book, laughed through it but most of all was blown away by how the Lord pursued me in it. The building blocks and truths in this book are beginning to change my life. I can't wait to grow forward with them. Thanks for "being great at relationships" Donald!55


A far cry from the expected2 star

I am a tremendous fan of Donald Miller's work; as his style, insight, vulnerability, and humor have always been inspiring and refreshing. Unfortunately, this book seems a deviation from what I enjoyed in his other work. Stylistically, the book is solid. However, the delivery and tone were unsettling to me. In the moments of vulnerability, the reader is reminded that they are reading a book by best selling author, Donald Miller. Many of the stories he shares include friends; most of them prestigious, successful, or famous. This is also pointed out in repetition; which becomes tiresome. While thematically I was excited before starting the book, as I've concluded reading, I can't say I'd recommend this as a deep, refreshing, and insightful book.25

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