Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents

Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents Summary

If you grew up with an emotionally immature, unavailable, or selfish parent, you may have lingering feelings of anger, loneliness, betrayal, or abandonment. You may recall your childhood as a time when your emotional needs were not met, when your feelings were dismissed, or when you took on adult levels of responsibility in an effort to compensate for your parent’s behavior. These wounds can be healed, and you can move forward in your life.

In this breakthrough book, clinical psychologist Lindsay Gibson exposes the destructive nature of parents who are emotionally immature or unavailable. You will see how these parents create a sense of neglect, and discover ways to heal from the pain and confusion caused by your childhood. By freeing yourself from your parents’ emotional immaturity, you can recover your true nature, control how you react to them, and avoid disappointment. Finally, you’ll learn how to create positive, new relationships so you can build a better life.

Discover the four types of difficult parents:

• The emotional parent instills feelings of instability and anxiety
• The driven parent stays busy trying to perfect everything and everyone
• The passive parent avoids dealing with anything upsetting
• The rejecting parent is withdrawn, dismissive, and derogatory

Book Reviews


This book changed my world view5 star

Not only did this book show me how to deal with my own emotionally immature loved ones, it also showed me how I am emotionally immature. We pick up communication from our parents. It makes sense that you’d also pick up their emotional immaturity. I started reading this book to deal with my relationship with my parents but it ended up showing me I can be a better person myself.55


Good information, questionable structure4 star

I loved the insights in this book and found the big-picture point-of-view to be a very helpful framing. The way she delineated personality characteristics often did not resonate for me and I found myself needing to take the ideas that worked for me and leave a lot of the structure behind. The latter part of the book gets into practical advise and “solutions” which I liked but also wanted to add a parenthetical frequently (this paragraph’s advice could take years to work through, don’t give up!). I still would recommend this book as a thought starter for self-reflection and reframing of our earliest and most influential relationships.45

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Excellent Aid:)5 star

I’m always hesitant about self-help books. Easy solutions and blame are often key figures. This book was clear, concise and helpful. How to move on when things haven’t gone so well in the past. Excellent!55

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Amazing.5 star

Honestly, i’ve only read a few pages and I started to tear up because of how accurate everything is. I love this book already and it’s really helping me with everything.55


Awesome Book!5 star

There is so much good advice in the book! I enjoyed reading every chapter. My key takeaway is that, things have happened to all of us that we can’t control, but we now have the power to do things differently!55


This changed my life.5 star

This book split my misbeliefs wide open until I could see my soul, again, for the first time in a decade. Thank you for this gift. I am grateful.55


Emotionally enlightening book5 star

This is an emotionally enlightening book that opens an window to your unnoticed family patterns. It provides readers with a structured framework to understand their past and gives practical guidance on how to move on from it. Great book.55


Life-Changing5 star

I’ve never felt more validated from any other book! It was so refreshing to read a scientific take on emotional trauma while also figuring out how to navigate those relationships. Highly recommend!55


Informative, but4 star

I find it quite concerning that the first suggestion is to emotionally detach and set the expectation that your emotional needs will ever be fulfilled while “going through the motions” of a familial relationship.45


A Lifesaver5 star

I feel like I’ve just woken up after an entire lifetime of feeling alone. It is so refreshing to have an author write a step by step guide on how to take back your life and not just reference vague ideas. Thank you!55

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